Over the past week, serious allegations have been made about me. I will address them directly.

Firstly, I acknowledge that my words or actions have been inappropriate at times. Looking back, what I may have considered meaningless or harmless banter/comments has often not been how others have seen it, however, this does not excuse the real world harm or discomfort that I may have caused.

To those that I have made uncomfortable through either my words or actions, I extend a sincere apology. I would never intentionally make somebody feel this way, if I have made you feel uncomfortable, please reach out and tell me, I will apologise genuinely and rectify my behaviour in future.

Secondly, regarding accusations that I have sexually assaulted people. I have never engaged in sex or BDSM/kink that was not only entirely consensual, but mutually desired. My BDSM interests/kinks are something I engage in with select people, it is a form of fantasy roleplay, it is not real, nor does it affect my real life views on anything. When I do have sex or engage in kink, I regularly check in with my partners because I genuinely care and it makes for a better experience for all involved.

I met the woman who provided those screenshots of our chat logs on a dedicated fetish platform. She and I consensually engaged in BDSM/Kink, sex and roleplay together on a casual basis for roughly a year. In that time, we exchanged 11,500~ messages, the majority of them being us sexting or talking about our varied interests. She, like me, has a deep interest in BDSM, kink and fetishism. Our mutual interests and accumulated knowledge helped us connect quickly and sustain many long conversations, both IRL and online. Of the 11,500 messages we exchanged, she has cherrypicked a select few, omitted the surrounding conversation and censored her own responses in order to build a narrative that I take advantage of and assault people. 

The basis of kink is consent, the mutual desire and enjoyment is what makes it fun. Whilst I do not expect anybody to understand why people choose to engage in the wilder sides of sex, kink and roleplay, I don’t think one needs to understand it in order to agree that it is the right of two or more individuals to engage in whatever consensual activities they like.

In regard to the claims I have assaulted people, once again, I have never engaged in anything that was not wholly consensual, nor would I. Mutual desire and pleasure is why I participate in kink; my partners' enjoyment is paramount to me.

Thirdly, regarding my comments about people overdosing; I’ve been in the scene for over 3 years. The amount of people overdosing that I have helped triage, carry to safety, called ambulances for and generally assisted at raves would be more than I can count. Because of what I have personally seen, I’ve taken every step I can to make my parties as safe as possible and have never had someone die or been seriously injured due to substances at my events. I take immense pride in the safety record of my parties. Whilst I apologise that my comments have caused offence, my real life actions tell a very different story.

Fourth, regarding my comments on the city's issues with Sudanese gangs: Those screenshots were from late 2024, during a time where multiple raves had been preyed upon by Sudanese gangs seeking to harass, rob and assault people. Specifically, in November 2024, one of my close friends was brutally attacked by one of these gangs with bats and knives, leaving him hospitalised, in a knee brace for 4 months and requiring physio for over a year. It was a distressing time and my comments reflected that.

I have nothing against the broader Sudanese community, I want to be clear: my grievances lay with those who engage in gang violence, irregardless of their ethnic background. 

As an aside, to those who complained about the security presence at my events, I have no regrets.  Every dollar I spent on security paid itself back a hundredfold knowing that my attendees and staff have never had to deal with gang related violence or weapons.

Lastly, regarding the accusation that I ‘stalked’ a member of the community, I reject this wholeheartedly. She and I run in similar circles as well as attend the same clubs/raves. As I have done for the past 3 years, I go out two-to-three nights a week, typically up to 3 events a night. I regularly run into the same people week after week because there are only so many ‘good’ things on. Running into her a couple times a month is nothing more than coincidence. As for me being overly helpful to her, I don’t gatekeep information or advice and I try to help everyone that asks because I enjoy helping people and sharing my knowledge. I was genuinely unaware of any discomfort as our interactions were typically so brief I paid them no mind. Had she communicated this to me directly or through a mutual acquaintance, I would have respected that boundary without hesitation.

To conclude, to those whom I have made uncomfortable by my words or actions, I deeply apologise. If you would like a personal apology, please reach out. 

Going forward, I will be engaging with those around me and my therapist to continue becoming the best version of myself and to correct patterns of behaviour that need addressing. For the foreseeable future, I will be taking time away from FTP.